20 October 2012

Stop Waiting, Start Living

Oh the Places You Will Go by Dr. Seuss:
The waiting place…for people just waiting
Waiting for a train to go or a bus to come,
or a plane to go or the mail to come,
or the rain to go or the phone to ring,
or the snow to snow, or waiting around for a yes or no,
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.
Waiting for the fish to bite,
or waiting for wind to fly a kite,
or waiting around for Friday night,
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake,
or a pot to boil, or a better break,
or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants, 
or a wig with curls, or another chance. 
Everyone is just waiting.

Going through any difficult situation - it is impossible not to live for the future. You are hanging on by the skin of your teeth because of the future. You are living because the future holds greater promises. You are holding on, because you know that somewhere, way out there, there is something better than what we are feeling right now. We are focused on the total recovery. We are focused on the peace we will feel after we have hurt as much as we needed to hurt. We rely on the moment where we can look back, and this will be behind us. We wait for the time when the present finally becomes our past. Some heal more quickly. Some find relief sooner than others. For others it might be months or years later, when you wake up one morning and realize that you don't hurt anymore. So, the challenge is to be patient. The challenge is to make it past those first weeks, and months, and years. The challenge is to try to live right now, the best way you can, even if that means barely making it. The challenge is to accept that the future will come. One day at a time.