07 November 2012

Chapter Two


The other night I was talking to a friend, and we had a long conversation about being human and trying to embrace it.

You can take that in a million different ways, but here is what we concluded. Societies standards are way too freaking high. Why are the very people we are always hardest on is ourselves? Why do we feel less significant when someone's life looks better or easier? When people ask how we are, why do we always feel an obligation to tell them we're doing well? Because our life looks better to them that way. Suffice it to say, some people have a seriously positive perception of life and of themselves - and more power to them. I am not condoning pessimism, but there are times when you just need to hear that it's okay to cry, and yes life does suck sometimes, and no we don't always have to be happy about it. Sometimes we need to put our big girl panties on and deal with it, but always remember that hurting doesn't make you weak, sadness doesn't mean you're failing, and my heavens if we don't always deal with things the right way it doesn't make us more deficient or inadequate. I think a lot of us don't give ourselves half the credit we deserve. 

Nick Vujuicic is an australian native who was born with a rare condition that left him limbless. He graduated from college at 21 with a double major, travels as a motivational speaker, surfs and swims, and plays soccer and golf. Ben Underwood, who died at the age of sixteen due to retinal cancer. His eyes were removed at the age of two, but decided he would learn to do what the dolphins do! Echolocation. He learned to see things by listening to noise. Liz Murray, who became homeless at fifteen after both of her parents died from AIDS, graduated from Harvard, has become a professional speaker, and her life was made into a movie. 

There are amazing people with amazing stories everywhere we look. What we don't always hear (or at least focus on) is the strength that came from their struggle. Maybe some didn't have a hard time, which makes them even cooler. But I'm sure there were days that really sucked. I'm sure there were moments when they thought why on earth is this happening. I would think there would have been some feelings of sadness at one point or another. 

In a previous post I talked about Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, and seriously she's way cool. In her ever so famous book she says, "The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen."

My point is I guess, Buddha was right. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. Don't let your circumstances make you feel any less than who you really are. Don't let other people's circumstances let you feel any less than who you are. Keep your head up. Be patient with yourself. There will always be someone better than you, or prettier, or stronger. That doesn't make us less special than them. We are children of God, and that in and of itself makes us of immense worth. It's okay to not always be okay. We are human. We make mistakes. We struggle. We are faced with difficulties. Embrace it.

"As a child of God, I am greater than anything that can happen to me." -Abdul Kalam